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Jokes Are Useless To Be Used Against Funny Women!!

Hello readers!

I am back again for more tips. Thanks much for liking my previous post. It means a lot! Expect more updates from me.

I’ve never been very comfortable around funny women.  I think that must be because I always try to be funny around the women that I fancy; my ex, Ruby, is the exception.  She and I met on one of the many great beaches here in Moanalua, and she almost immediately had me laughing my head off – she was that funny. Anyway, I kind of saw her great sense of humor as a challenge; I had to prove I can be at least as funny as she was.  We were on for about a year, laughing at each other’s jokes much of the time.  Unfortunately, career took her someplace I was not willing to go and we parted ways.  But it sure was great while it lasted.

Funny women are much harder to impress than regular women. While they may be among the friendliest types of people around, their sense of humor that makes them extra nice to people are what makes them difficult to please. For one, funny women are really, really smart and they can so easily see past your pretense. You can just sashay around in your best pose or your generic pickup lines; that won’t sell you for your targeted funny lady. Is Long distance relationships – tips on how to make them work?

You have to step up to get her attention, to make her want to listen to you and to keep her pinned there. You have to make sure that you have something most other men, especially her guy buddies (which she likely has tons of) have not shown her yet.

Ways to Impress Her

So you want to impress her? Here are 5 things you have to remember the next time you go face-to-face with that one funny lady you’ve been fancying:

1. Talk about your interests. Intelligent women love men who know tons of things. And these funny girls are not the kind who would mind you being a little too dorky about the things that you like. These are women that know passion; these are women who are interested in learning about tons of new things. So whether you’re a fanatic of Norwegian cooking, crazy about computer games, or you have a deep-seated obsession with ancient cards, trust me she will listen if you talk about it in the most interesting way.

2. Be funny. And if you’re not the funny type, well, you can at least try? Funny women are mostly nice and friendly, and unless we’re talking about women who make people laugh for a living, she won’t be very critical about it. So try to be funny to her, she is likely to appreciate it.

3. Find a way to show her some talent of yours. So you have a knack for card tricks, huh? Or you could put a seasoned magician to shame with your magic tricks? Or maybe you could belt out a tune or two. Whatever your talent is, now is the right time to really, really flaunt it because it will definitely get you places with this funny woman. Adam Sandler’s character wasn’t exactly the sexiest man around Drew Barrymore’s character in 50 First Dates, but those ukulele chops really did him a lot of good in impressing her!

4. Tease her. Egg her to say something funny to you. Be playful around her and tease her without offending her. Your playful attitude will likely make her open up to you more and be comfortable around you.

5. Don’t forget to compliment her. So after teasing her and playing around with her, never forget to leave a lasting compliment. Avoid compliments that are very generic and only skin-deep. Funny as they are, these women are, more often than not, very deep thinkers and they would like to think you appreciate them for more than just their looks. Keep the physical compliments at a minimum, and focus more on all her other traits – smart, funny, fun to be with.


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Posted on 3rd February 2014 in Dating Tips  •  Comments are off for this post

Bad Boy Is Sexy… But Pathetic

Hello good people!

Have you ever heard the saying that “good guys always finish last?” When I was still trying to win Kate, I had competition from people I consider bad guys.  Unfortunately for me then, at first Kate seemed to gravitate toward the bad guys – unfortunate because I took pride in my good guy reputation.  But then I realized I really did not have to ditch being a good guy, all I had to do was to look sufficiently ‘bad’ and mysterious without actually being one.  It worked like a charm, landing me a relationship with Kate, the one woman in the world that I truly love!

Good girls dig bad guys. This is one of the biggest, most mysterious dating behaviors of women that have continued to baffle good men to the benefit of the ‘bad boys.’ Why would good, intelligent, gorgeous and loyal women want to be in relationships with men who only want to break their hearts? There’s a mystery for you.

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Be an attractive Bad Good Guy

how to make her go crazy over you – a tactical guide. While the mystery remains unanswered, there are ways to bring out the bad boy in each of us, if just to to attract the nice girls [15], without actually being bad:

Swap your big sunny, toothy smiles for the half-grin of most dangerous men. Have you ever seen an assassin smile sheepishly? No. So go ahead and practice that half-smile – it looks just as dangerous as it is sexy. For inspiration, check out photos of the devious half of the Salvatore brothers, Damon played by Ian Somerhalder. Learn a thing or two about how to channel those inner devilish charms.

Don’t be too friendly. I’m not saying you should be rude and mean. But cut down the social butterfly status and go for the quiet, mysterious, shy guy who likes to be alone and away from the crowd. If you’ve never watched Twilight (and even if you have, I’m pretty sure you’d deny having watched it), you might want to look at clips of Edward in the first movie where he plays an elusive, quiet, shy gentleman. Trust me; you can get their attention by trying not to get their attention.

Look at people in the eye. Don’t stare too long to be creepy but linger a bit longer than usual. See, shy guys can be quiet too; but the difference lies in how they look at people. The shy guys scan the big picture without necessarily keeping their eyes on one girl for fear of being caught. Meanwhile, bad guys are as quiet and as detached as shy people but they stare – they hold their gaze and lock eyes with the woman they fancy. They stare long enough to get the woman’s attention, capture her curiosity to the point of staring back and then let go of the stare.  Try it.  You can thank me later!

Don’t talk too much. Remember, bad guys are mysterious! Don’t talk too much about yourself, don’t go out too much, and don’t be too active on social media. Bad guys always keep a low profile and keep the ladies waiting for him to reveal more of himself. Remember, women are interested in men they know nothing about so keep them asking by giving details in dribbles. Reserve the detailed answer for the one special girl that you really like.

Don’t be too neat. While being hygienic is important, keep a disheveled look for yourself. Grow your hair a little bit longer than allowed, wear dark clothes, and look a little dangerous.

Ever wonder why women can’t seem to resist bad boys? It’s not because they’re jerks – no one likes someone because they’re a jerk. Rather, it’s because they’re confident and assertive – in other words, sexy. Use these pointers to build your masculine confidence and show the world (and all the women in it) who wears the pants! –Read more.

You don’t have to be a real bad guy to get them ladies hooked! You just have to look the part. Good luck Good Bad Guy!

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Posted on 9th December 2013 in Dating Tips, Relationships  •  Comments are off for this post

She Already Dumped You. Forget Her…

Greetings beloved readers!

I just ran into an ex while I was visiting Moanalua Gardens Park.  She’officially an ex now but there was a time she dumped me after which I won her back; at least for some time.  The final time we parted it was a mutual decision; Lisa and I realized that we were really incompatible.  Because of that, our chance meeting and resulting conversation was pleasant.  It brought back only good memories.  My past with Lisa proved that getting dumped does not mean the end of your relationship is final.

She Already Dumped You. Forget Her…

Love may be lovelier the second time around, but getting there may not exactly be as easy.

Getting back with your ex-girlfriend is one huge decision that comes with even bigger requirements the moment you take it. It is twice, thrice, maybe even four or five times more difficult than winning her the first time around. This time you have a history. And while at some point it may be to your advantage, it is an obstacle most of the time. It will not be easy to woo her [6] this time around.

That is why you have to work harder and plan your dates more thoroughly. How you execute every date this time around will matter more than it did in the past. So where you take her to and what you do at every date will make or break your second chance at love.

Want her back?

After learning how to ask a woman out – advice from Sonic Seduction. Here are your best date options for winning your ex-girlfriend:

Relive your first meeting, first date, or any significant firsts the last time you were together. Man, you have history. You had better use that to your advantage! Use your good memories together, the ones that would conjure up the most poignant, Hallmark channel kind of stories that you shared. Tap into her emotion – remind her why she loved you the first time. Of course, get to work to make it more memorable for her this time around. You can view this article also by

Use all of her old favorites. You should know all these, so by all means use them to your advantage. Make her realize that you still treasure memories of her, that she matters enough for you to remember the little details about her. She may not mention it but trust me; she will notice it and it can only translate to plus points on the scoreboard for you.

Go the extreme lengths to win her back. Just as there were reasons she once loved you, she must also have had reasons to break up with you. And that’s something you’d like to push aside into the most inaccessible portions of your mind. Try to make your efforts to get back together bigger than the reason for the past breakup. Rent an ad space, have someone serenade her, or fill her bedroom with roses – you name it. Find something that will make her jaws drop and make her forget about and regret why she broke up with in the first place. Apart from that, you are also sending her the right message: you are a much better person now than the last time.

Two things that can help you make that elusive reconciliation happen: creativity and good memories. But you have to realize that your history with each other is a double edged sword; it can work for you in some instances, and the opposite in others.

And best of all, to pull this one off successfully, here are two things that you should never forget: (1) don’t bring up old fights and (2) don’t forget to apologize for what happened in the past.

Also read How to Get a Second Date after a Bad First One for a more effective reconcilation. Good luck!


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Posted on 2nd October 2013 in Dating, Dating Tips, Love, Relationships  •  Comments are off for this post

Bad First Date? Remedy Is Here…

Greetings Everyone! After my first blog post, I just want to help everybody who asked me, “What could happen after a bad first date?”  Well, read on to the end and try your best to earn a second chance!

I was not born great at dating; I don’t think anybody is!  I have horrible memories of some of my first few attempts at dating back in high school, and even in my freshman year at the University of Wisconsin – Madison.  One of these disasters I remember clearly to this day.  I went out with Cathy, one of the hottest freshmen at the time.  We were at dinner when she mentioned that she loved having dates at that place because her ex worked there – she was using me, and other males as well, to spite her ex!  I never did ask her out again after that.

What do you do after a bad first date? Run away? Change address and hide forever? Move on and get a new date with someone else? Sure, that’s what most men would do. But would you ever consider trying to get a second date?

It sounds ridiculous, of course. After all, no one would be crazy enough to give himself a second dose of rejection, let alone humiliation. That’s ego suicide!

But then again, why not? Everyone deserves a second chance at everything so why should you not give it a second try? Use this chance to give her a better second impression – something that’s good enough to make her forget the bad first impression you gave her. And besides, you may never meet a girl as special as she is. Just think about all the possibilities if you make it past the second date successfully!

Don’t waste your second chance!

Sure there are tons of things to get worried about. You may have failed so horribly on the first one that she might actually think of you as a joke. You may have failed so horribly she might not even answer your call! But then again, it might not have been that bad at all and maybe your fears are just making it seem so horrible.

Convinced about getting a second try? Great! Read this blog post on flirting or this article from Evan Marckatz. Okay! Be ready, here’s what you can do:

Plan an interesting invite. If you’ve botched the first dinner date, don’t expect her to still want to go out to dinner with you. In fact, don’t try to invite her to do anything that’s practically the same thing you did on the first date. It won’t be interesting and it would bring back bad first date memories. If you want to make a new impression, try out something new. Try something that she cannot say ‘no’ to, like a concert, a house party, or something that would strike her fancy. (Hopefully, you’ve talked and listened well enough on your first date to know her interests).

Don’t go for the call – she might just not answer it. Go for a text – it’s much safer plus you’re likely to let her in on your second date plans. You could tell her your plans even before she could say no, or even before your own fear and awkwardness takes you over. Carefully plan how and what to say to convince her to give it a second try;   use an emoticon or two to keep things light and easygoing.

Speak of easygoing; don’t make a big fuss of things. One, don’t call the ‘second date’ a ‘date’ – it will make her defensive and remind her about the first one. Second, don’t talk about the first date; don’t even mention it if possible (unless you did something that requires an apology). Don’t be too pushy either. She will think you’re desperately trying to get her to like you even after your horrible first date. That might be your intention but you can always be subtle about it!

Make sure you’d be your best self ever. Not everyone gets a second chance especially at dating so go ahead and make the most out of this. This might be your one big date and she might be the love of your life. Be your best self while at it baby!

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Posted on 2nd October 2013 in Dating, Dating Tips, Love, Relationships  •  Comments are off for this post

Are You Up Shit Creek? Here’s What You Need To Know To Salvage Shit!

As my first post, I would like to help everyone who thinks misunderstandings are causing their relationships to go off track.

Do you know that I’ve gone through lots of relationships crises that you can almost consider me an expert in them?  Yes, it’s true.  Even my thriving and ever blooming relationship with the love of my life, Kate, had its low moments.  Perhaps the lowest was about a year back when we both fell prey to excessive familiarity.  The way we interacted with each other became so routine it almost killed off all the sparks of love we had for each other.  But we faced the problem head on and made a commitment to set aside time for us to be alone with each other – not necessarily on a full-blown date but just time set aside solely for us to be together.  We also pledged to be more demonstrative and vocal about our love for each other. It worked like a charm!

Every relationship has its ups and downs. It is not always about rainbows and butterflies; it is never a 365-day honeymoon period. But sometimes, some of these bad days are worse than others. And these are the times that put the relationship to the test.

When these times comes you have only two choices: fight or flight. You either quit and leave the relationship and your ladylove, or make an effort to save it.

5 simple techniques that you should know!

If you are experiencing these down times in your relationship, and you so badly want to keep it and keep your girlfriend, these 5 simple techniques might just be all you need to save your ailing relationship; these might be the exact same things that your girlfriend has so long been waiting from you:

Treat her in a more special and loving way. Treat her like she deserves – as the woman you love, and the only one that matters to you. You might have become so familiar with each other that your behavior becomes common, routine, and borderline boring. Go back to the days when you have just started dating, when you were still trying to win her. She would enjoy feeling the same love and attention you gave her in the past. It does not need to be anything grandiose and lavish; it could be as simple as holding her hands in public, helping her with the door, kissing her more frequently, etc.

Go out on dates regularly. You don’t need a special occasion to spend quality time together. Go someplace romantic, do something memorable, and do it as frequently as possible.  Don’t make it plain and routine, that’d make it boring and defeat its purpose. Again, it does not have to be grandiose – just special. And on these moments, don’t let anything distract you. This is your special moment; always savor it, prepare for it, and make her look forward to it. Visit SIBG for tips and techniques that will run your date perfectly!

Don’t fall asleep mad at each other. This is the secret of the longest lasting relationships I know. Before you go to bed, make sure you’ve resolved your differences and that you’ve made peace with each other. An argument that goes overnight is a bad thought to wake up to and ruins your entire day. Moreover, it gets you used to a hostile environment and that’s never a good thing for a relationship.

Always keep your communication lines wide open. Some couples have this bad habit of not talking to each other when they are mad. Some men just shut up when they are angry or during a confrontation; ironically, it is this frustrating silence which causes  women to actually nag more. These habits are bad. Always, always talk with each other no matter how angry you are. Talk normally even when you have not made peace yet – don’t make silence a habit that comes with every argument. And always keep your communication open and comfortable.

Always tell each other ‘I love you’. Remind yourself that you are in love; that you are in the relationship because you love her. And you have to remind yourself that so it channels in your actions towards her. And don’t forget to actually tell her that. Say it even when you’re mad, bored, or tired. Say it as often as you can to remind her why you should remain in a relationship with each other.

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Posted on 30th September 2013 in Dating, Dating Tips, Love, Relationships  •  Comments are off for this post