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Let’s Talk Sports.

Hi fellas!

There was a time when I was a freshman at the University of Wisconsin-Madison when I tried out for the school’s basketball team.  Though I really never made it past the trials, it was evident that every game, even the trials, was heavily attended by really hot women. I even managed to get a few delighted squeals the couple of times I managed to score.  I remember thinking how hot I could have been in their eyes if I made it to the varsity team – and if I managed to make it as a starter – whoa!  All that’s water under the bridge now and I am very happy and more than just content with Kate and our relationship.  But that goes to show you how attractive to women athletes are!

There are three basic types of men that are most attractive to women: the artists, the musicians, and the athlete.

If you’re neither of the three, your best chance at channeling any of these three men in an attempt to attract women would be to try to be an athlete.

While the word athlete is, in its strictest sense reserved for the pros, take it from me my friends – it would be far easier to try to dribble and shoot a ball than to create a sculpture, a painting, or to play a tune on some instrument.

And so let’s discuss the 5 sports that are easiest to fake while helping to boost your attractiveness to ladies.

Sports that will make a girl crazy

Gentlemen (besides the conversational attraction techniques), go flex your muscles and get your athletic bone ready to make girls go crazy over you:

Basketball: Sure not everyone has the perfect build for it (don’t worry about it), but after marathon watching NBA Hardwood Classics, NBA 2K13, and hanging out with some baller friends at the neighborhood basketball court maybe you can copy Kobe Bryant’s stance. Maybe you can even try to shoot some hoops for real. We’re not gunning for pro level player here anyway; just something for the girls to cheer about. *Wink*

Swimming: Who does not appreciate a good swimmer? Be it at the beach or at the local swimming club, a few Ryan Lochte-esque strokes, flat tummy (if you don’t have yet your washboard abs), and the right outfit (or lack of it), will definitely get heads turning. So go ahead and practice those strokes you learned at PE class and put it to good use!

Soccer: Ah, but of course, how can we leave out one of the world’s most popular ball games? Everyone loves it (think: David Beckham). What can be so hard about kicking a ball around anyway? As long as it’s not on the pro level, you don’t need to be really good, so go and train your feet to kick at an angle, build a bit of cardio to run after the ball, and maybe if you’re really good, learn those knee and chest tricks that they do. Who knows, you may just meet your own Victoria on the pitch!

American football/rugby:   Ah, but of course. Football is one of the most masculine ball games – and one that you don’t need a lot of accessories to play. You just need to have legs for running, hands for catching, and the body to tackle (or at least pretend to) your playmates. This is a great game to play topless and on the beach or at the park. But remember, you have to have the muscles for it.

Golf: Two words: Tiger Woods. Who knew that this sport of retirees could be so attractive to young women? Golf is all sophistication and finesse and calmness. You get to meet women at the country club while you’re all decked out in well-pressed trousers, classic looking golfing shoes, collared sports shirts and the shades to go with it. PS: you have to have the money for membership, the golf clubs, and the fantastic five-course wine and dine dinner you must take the lady you meet at the lobby to.

You don’t have to be good at it; you’re not gunning for a pro career anyway. You just have to look good at it, or at least look charming while you suck at it. Remember, girls love athletes!

BTW… Thank you very much for the very positive feedback I received for my last blog post, it was a “blockbuster”! I am very glad a lot of people found it helpful. :)

Attracting women is just the first step; you need to learn how to nurture your relationship.  Buy our book: “We Are Each Other: The Kate & Jason’s Guide To Everlasting Love”; go here:

Posted on 24th September 2012 in Understanding a Woman  •  Comments are off for this post

Gym Seduction

Hello singles, couples and lovers!

Do you know that I first met Jason at a gym?  I must admit that I felt it was rather unusual because here in Hawaii, aside from the usual singles hangouts, many meet ups happen on a beach somewhere.  We have thousands of miles of coastline and thousands of people, both local and tourists, who are there to have fun almost any day of the week.  I distinctly remember that I was impressed by his determination to get in shape – both of us were trying to shed extra pounds then – which made me curious and want to compare the effectiveness of our respective routines.  And before we knew it our relationship had bloomed from being just casual acquaintances to the committed lovers and partners we have grown into.

The gym is one of the best places to meet women outside of the usual bars, clubs and parties. If you play your cards right, everything could work perfectly in your favor. And best of all, you’d get to meet women when they’re least inhibited, when they are more at ease, and more importantly, you won’t fall victim to makeup-pretty women because seriously, who wears makeup to the gym?!!! Date ideas? Click here!

So, to increase your chances of meeting women at the gym, you have to impress them and you have to do it convincingly.

Make a good impression

Here are some of the best tips on how to make a good impression on women and how to seduce women in the gym:

Watch what you wear. Just because you are going out to the gym to sweat profusely does not mean you don’t have to pay attention to what you are wearing. I cannot tell you exactly what you can and should wear, but I can give you a list of what you SHOULD NEVER, EVER wear. This list includes neons, spandex, skimpy Hulk Hogan-esque shirts, and shirts that could pass off as a dishrag. Stick to a look that is both comfortable and fashionable but not overboard eccentric.

Put hygiene on top of your priority list. Hygiene is important on a normal day, where you don’t sweat too much and you don’t spend hours sharing gym equipment with tons of other sweaty men. Hygiene becomes even more important if you are spending your time in the gym. Just imagine sweating out for hours and having to use the gym seats that have been soaked in someone else’s sweat (and all the bacteria that is soaking in it). And yes, just imagine how stinky you could get and how many diseases you could get on it. SO make sure that you have put on your heavy-duty deodorant, brought your very own towel, and an extra shirt.

Do not flex to impress women. One, you’re not Johnny Bravo or Popeye; two, women are not as visual as men when it comes to sex. So you’d have to be insane to think that flexing your muscles is a good way to impress her. Sure, it’s going to get her attention, but unfortunately, it won’t be in a good way. Act naturally because I don’t think she’s out there looking for The Rock’s movie double. Two, act naturally because she’d just laugh at you if you end up looking foolish instead of macho. And yes, drop the really big dumbbells unless that’s what your trainer has planned for your routine.

Don’t stare. It’s creepy as it is; it’s going to be even creepier in a gym setting. Look, smile your friendliest, and be generally nice. Don’t try to look sexy unless that’s something you’re very good at (Which I highly doubt because if you were, you wouldn’t really be reading this). A relaxed smile will show her that you’re having fun at what you’re doing and she’s going to get positive vibes from it.

And oh, don’t talk too much either.

So after reading the Do’s, read the Don’ts. And remember, put on your most confident self! Good luck!

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Posted on 22nd June 2012 in Understanding a Woman  •  Comments are off for this post